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Snow, wind and rain... plus a great start to our wedding shows

Just got back from our first wedding show of the Spring, The Scottish Wedding Show in Edinburgh. Scotland is one of our 'hotspots' for couples using our wedding lists and we love the show we go to each year in Edinburgh - we have some great conversations and get great feedback and this year was no exception.

More couples had thought about having a charity wedding list and we got a much better reaction this year to The Scottish Wedding List - we'd only just gone live last time we were there but this year have an even stronger line-up of charities on the service - charities like Alzheimer Scotland, Cornerstone Community Care and Quarriers have been joined by others including Chest Heart and Stroke Scotland, Turning Point Scotland and Scottish International Relief (and we still have a couple more expected to be joining soon).

While in Scotland I couldn't help heading to the hills for a walk and headed to Perthshire for a spot of hill-walking in the snow - on occasions the views were great but (see the inset picture) at times I was reliant on my compass as I could barely see more than a few yards!

We've got two major three-days shows to come in two of the next three weekends (both in London) - The Designer Wedding Show and The National Wedding Show - I'm rounding up the volunteers!

Andy 

Green weddings and why we do what we do...

Green weddings are all the rage but there's such a range of advice that it must be difficult for couples to wade through it all. Two items I saw recently;

One, on a 'green wedding' organisers blog, recommended a 'green venue' that had all manner of recycling options, had some solar-power etc - the recommendation, however, was that only a summer wedding could truly be considered green (as during the winter months there would be the need for 'traditional' power sources, the need for a hot meal rather than, maybe, a cold buffet etc). What absolute rubbish I thought; 50 people at a summer wedding = a saving on 50 lighting/heating/cooking bills for a summers day versus lighting/heating/cooking bills for those people in one location (i.e. a little more efficient, but being summer not much). However, the same number of people at a winter wedding = an even greater saving in bringing those people together, as instead of 50 people heating/lighting/cooking separately (i.e. at a greater level than during the summer) they would all be in one location, and so would generate a greater saving per person than during the summer. So winter weddings, arguably, are more environmentally efficient than summer weddings...just a little thought (and simple maths) might have helped.

The other item (in a wedding magazine) talked about being able to offset your honeymoon flights (a worthwhile activity), but the very next article encouraged couples to find a venue for their wedding in an exotic a place as possible, meaning that all of their guests would then have to fly there as well - the carbon footprint issue wasn't mentioned at all. I'm not suggesting couples should only marry in their nearest church and invite no-one (I certainly didn't) but as more and more options become available to marrying couples an eyes-open approach to all decisions wouldn't hurt either - sadly I'm not sure they can expect many in the wedding industry to help them.

Final thought for the entry; I was reminded at the weekend why we do what we do when someone I know had a stroke - at 43 she's on the young side but this isn't by any means unusual. It's early days and we're hopeful of a full recovery but we know it'll be a long road - it reminds me how lucky most of us are.

Andy

   

Everybody say 'aahhh'....

Now I'm not saying that we get emotionally attached to the couples who hold a wedding list with us, and nor am I saying that some of them may get attached to us, but we're only human, and it's amazing how being just a small part of someone's big day can really make you feel close!

It feels really good when some of them keep in touch and let us know how thing's are going - Jo and Chris have just sent us photos of their gorgeous daughter Isabella.

Jo and Chris used The Alternative Wedding List early in 2007 and Isabella arrived, 7 weeks early, in November - I know all babies look lovely but I think Isabella looks lovelier than most!

Andy

Our last wedding show this year

We exhibited at our final show of the year yesterday, the last of the season's gay wedding shows. Great fun and quite relaxed - one of our favourite acts of these (or indeed any) shows are The Three Waiters. Pretending to be waiters at your event/wedding they suddenly burst into song, and at the shows they also provide a little entertainment to keep us wide awake.

It was also great that one of our registered couples came along and said hi - Lyn and Deb get hitched in March and had a few things left to find - great news that they'd already decided on their gift list!

On the charity front - lots happening! Suddenly a few we've been asking to come onboard are saying yes so lots of work in letting them know how things work, how we can get them setup on the gift lists, and then finally working on the details ('gifts' etc) that will actually become part of the lists. We're trying to get as many of the new charities sorted by the new year as that's when we tend to get a big increase in next year's marrying couples signing up. Last week however we also had a charity, that we've been talking to for a year that we wanted to try and raise money for through our Scottish gift lists, come back to us and let us know that they weren't going to join up - always a dissapointment after so much work but it just means the door is open for another.

Andy

Social Enterprise Day

Today is Social Enterprise Day - for many social enterprises it's an opportunity to celebrate their achievements within the communities they operate. Away from all the wedding fairs it can often feel like we're a little remote from our 'community' (the couples who use our wedding lists? the charities we generate money for? the end recipients in various countries of that money?) as for reasons of cost/efficiency we try to keep engagement to a minimum (i.e. mainly using the internet/email etc).

For us Social Enterprise Day is more about feeling part of a wider movement of different types of organisations trying to operate in the right way and make a difference at the same time. Although we're based just outside the capital we're members of Social Enterprise London and this gives us access to a variety of practical help, advice and other opportunities (including featuring on Shop Social Enterprise) - although we're not heavily involved it's really good to know they're there.

Meanwhile we're working on bringing a tranche of charities onto the various services in time for the new year;

The Green Gift List is one of our new services for 2008 and we're adding more charities there ready for the new year. One of these is elephant family who I went to see on Monday to start agreeing gifts for the website - there'll be some great ideas ("nibbles" - I'll say no more).

Bringing charities onto The Scottish Wedding List has been more of a challenge - as, generally, we have an idea of the ideal range of charities that we'd like on there (based on the sorts of charities that couples already select and also ask us for) we have a list of charities that we've already identified and been trying to bring on for the best part of a year. With many charities having such small fundraising teams it can take a while to get things moving, even when everybody wants to! Things seem to be picking up and so we're hopeful of getting the right mix of charities live for January.

Getting charities live for The London Wedding List was a little easier, although we're still adding a few more for next year - this service only went live in mid-2007, effectively missing the wedding season, so we're excited for what 2008 will bring.

Andy

Wedding shows = exhaustion

We're coming to the end of the Autumn wedding shows that we attend. They're great fun but absolutely exhausting - a typical three day show involves Thursday set-up followed by three solid 8-hour days on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. Over the last few weeks we've been to The National Wedding Show at Earls Court in London and the NEC in Birmingham as well as The Designer Wedding Show in Battersea Park, London.

Piccy is of one of our volunteers, Lauren, at Earls Court.

We've got two more to go in November, one in Manchester, one in Brighton, both are Gay Wedding Shows - based on our experience of previous years shows they'll both be great fun as they tend to be more relaxed than other events (fewer mother-in-laws).

As we don't get let out that often we find all the shows are really good for getting a sense of how couples are taking to the idea of having a charity wedding list and getting feedback on lots of different aspects of the various services (types of charities, how it's used etc). From when we first started going to wedding shows more than three years ago (when we first launched The Alternative Wedding List) we've found that more couples have heard of the concept (not necessarily obvious as it's a new group of marrying couples every year) but also that more have already made their decision (even though it's often a 'no' most are kind enough not to give us our leaflets straight back, even though we prefer it if they do!). The conversations with couples who are thinking about going for it have become even more in-depth over the years - they're really good for challenging us about how we're going about things.

Popular discussion this Autumn was around The Green Gift List, our newest gift list service with a range of environmental and conservation charities - very topical!

Andy